huck159
Your right, it happen to me this past weekend,, A new guy messaged and wanted to try it with another guy, but he was nervous, so i ask my ex and she said she would join in, so i told him that and he was over that night. after we got naked and he eat out my ex, i sucked him for a minute and ask if he wanted to suck me. He said he changed his mind and he didnt want to suck or get sucked by a guy, cause he was not gay, and wanted me to leave the room so he could fuck my ex. He said he couldt fuck her while i was watching or in the room. I told him that he had down guys on profile and he cant change the rules in the middle of a meeting, Ended up with me letting him know that i was not going to leave, that he was, while getting dressed he told my ex to call him and he would come fuck her while i was at work. she told him no, that she didnt play those kinda games. his profile still has single men listed.,

carol_danny
We made a similar post a while back on this very topic. We do meet people quite often and have had a problem with guys who say they are Bisexual or Bi-curious, but have obviously never done a thing!

We met up with a guy from BP back in April who has all sorts of stuff on his profile which made him look very experienced in Bi-. We met at the bar, chatted, and then took him home. Once we got naked, he just laid back on the bed and didn't move. he admitted he had never done anyhting and didn't know if he could. Lets just say that after about 15 minutes I told him it just wasn't going to work and had him leave.

Over the past many years, we have met numerous guys with profiles stating they were Bi, and who admitted they had never done a thing. I really don't mind Bi-Curious people, as long as they admit that right up front, especially on their profile, so we know what we are dealing with. But when you have someone who lists all the Bi things they have done, and then recant it all when you get together, that just will not work.

But things aren't all bad. We had a Bi-Guy over two weeks ago that's as sexually crazy as we are! That was great. he was into kissing, fucking and being fucked, and even Watersports, so the three of us all get very wet! The Bi-Guys are there, you just have to work at finfing them, unfortunately.

shelli_k18
I can understand this, but I am wondering, if they put down bicurious, or bisexual? Some sites have this distinction, I've explored both sides, so I am very able to say bisexual, but it's also true that I've not had sex with a male in over 2 yrs. That I'm more attracted to females, and that I feel awkward around men. The thing is, I don't know how to act around some guys, I want to act my feminine self, and be coy and actively seek their attention, but with their wives there it's the straight 'acting' knee jerk reaction to explore that option first. Truth is, I've been with straight couples, and the man wants nothing to do with me. But I'm bi, and I think it's true that I feel most humans are bisexual, just don't know what they are missing, so instead of pushing their limits and getting kicked out again, I gravitate to the ladies...

I think these straight acting bi's are just that, all talk, but when you push them for male on male action, you might be surprised by what they are willing to do...

bim51
Honesty should be the ONLY policy. It is unfortunate that this is not the case.

fun_4_2
the webmasters have put alot of time into the features we have here to report members for dishonesty. You can post a review on the member in question's profile, report them as dishonest about their profile, email the webmasters and let them know the issues.... many options. Unfortunately there are those that feel the need to lie to get laid. Maybe that is the only way they can get it? I don't know.. but warning signs are all over and when hooking up with anyone you have to watch for those signs and be extra careful. On the other hand, as carol and danny have said, the real ones are out there... sometimes it just takes a while to find them... dont lose hope!!

BiNJshore
Perhaps an approach to the fun - as a bi single guy meeting couples, I always offered to suck the male before anything else happened. This was a requirement with the first couple I met and it worked out great. As soon as I was sucking the husband, the wife's clothes were off in a flash and she started sucking me at the same time. Was a really great evening/night - she even fucked me with a strapon while I blew her husband which was great! So Mr. bi single - no suckie dickie, no fuckie pussy lol

Dominic47
Just to add my two penneth, I'm a little bemused as to why openly straight guys come on the site. I've never looked into it but am pretty sure the are endless sites for them.
I'm afraid I have blocked them, the reason being I assume they are not remotely interested in me so do they need to view anything I post.

BiDiscreteMaleMD
This is kind of off the topic, but if a straught guy allows another man to suck his dick...he is bi. Even if he doesn't reciprocate, and it may be one-way, the dude is not "straight". He's just in denial.

BiDiscreteMaleMD
To BiNJShore - that's exactly what I do. I want the couple to feel comfortable and when I go down on the male first, everyone opens up

HappyBiGuy
I must admit, I'm a bit confused as well as to why straight men would come on here by themselves. I mean, the name of the site isn't in the least bit ambiguous.

explore69
We have had this happen more than once. It has gotten to the point that if a guy claims he is bi or bicurious, then he has to meet with the male half of our couple first and prove it. It's amazing how many supposedly bi or bicurious guys disappear after you tell them they have to do that.

We wish it were easier to find bicouples.

ssrusty
I for one like the rule about doing male male action first. Personally, with my shyness, I would prefer to have the first meeting with just the male and get comfy with him first. Then on a later meeting have fun with the whole couple. My personal problem isn't really wanting to play with women; as sexually I am more drawn towards men, but finding time that I can get away from it all to play. I feel there are members on here who prob think I am one of the "bad" members mentioned in the first post, when it is just finding the time to be able to play. Wish there were members close who could play after work one evening for an hour or two, and not have to plan for an all day play date, though those are fun.

peeteerr
BiNJshore may have a new slogan there, no Suckie ie,no ie
thats great. LOL

RKNBMS
We hate that problem as well. We are almost to the point of asking for reference's.... lol I must say I'am dissapointed we thought that here on this site we would find men that were just as they claim........... but I am proud to say and prove that I am bi, I can prove it...!

HappyBiGuy
OK, I'm finally going to jump in here. I agree with both peeteerr and d14sxyfun65.

seniornudistbi_guy
I would be ok with the suck hubby first rule if it hadn't backfired on me with a couple I was with. They had me over because the wife told me specifically that she wanted to see me suck her hubby's cock. When we got naked, I started out sucking his cock and she got upset because she felt excluded. Needless to say that didn't work out very well. I specifically like to play with couples because I want to play with them BOTH and I want BOTH of them to play with me. That is why I am here.

lovebiplay
We have had many men who have emailed us and show interest in hubby to later find out that they are just trying to get to me. At this point I question every male that contacts us and I have even removed alot of my pictures. We have a clearly stated profile of exactly what we want and are willing and not willing to do but alot of the obviously not ...Bi Curious and Bi men think that they can get in and change our minds. That will not happen.

We go through a "red flag list" (example- N/A... need not to look at us. How is a persons sexuality not applicable on a site like this?.... it shouldn't even be a choice. People say its for dicreetness but then have alot of face pictures and it makes no sense) before we will even entertain the idea of trying to meet someone (though every time we have gotten past the getting to know you stage the other person seems to drop off the site).

My hubby is Bi-Curious and states that he has had no experience in our profile. He just wants to give it a chance but we cant seem to find someone close who wants to offer it to us. But the hunt will go on.

I don't get why straight men would be on this site either... but I have my assumptions... They are either in denial about their sexuality, want to be in a FFM threesome and thought this was the place to achieve that.... or (benefit of doubt) they just like the openmindness peeps have on this site.

But thats just my 2 cents. Sorry I tend to ramble.... Happy Hunting everyone

~Shelly
( I also like the rule that the other person must suck first if they are coming into a couples situation)

BillySue32605
Wow, thanks T & J... It's been a while since someone has addressed this issue and I'm glad that you did. Heck, guys like you mentioned are the main reason why Sue decided to just sit back and watch how things unfolded before joining in when we meet someone new. Thanks again...

bill9961
It is sad to see that people would be like that. Having both at the same time is so wonderful, I can't imagine why someone would go through all the steps to get together with a couple and then only want to play with one of them. I keep hoping for the day when I can find a couple near by to play with.

Friendly_Lovers
I agree. We have not had the pleasure of getting together with anyone on this site yet. That being said, this is not the first site we have tried to find lovers on. I have found that there are a good percentage of men out there who are interested in being with my wife and willing to say anything to convince me that is not the case when we meet in person. Unfortunately for them, both of us are very perceptive and don't fall for that crap anymore. I remember the last time it happened about 8 years ago. This guy met with us and we thought he would be interesting to explore with. Well, as it turns out, he stated he only had safe sex at the dinner table and was totally interested in sucking my cock and having me suck his. We arrived at his place an hour later and he then stated that he had no condoms because he was allergic to latex. I did not trust him at that point but agreed that we had spent so much time looking for the perfect situation that we would at least get some sucking done. So, we all get naked and he lies down and the wife lays next to him and presents me his cock. I eagerly suck it while he fondles and sucks the wife's breasts. About 5 minutes into it he said to my wife "He sure is enjoying that isn't he". Long story short, he did not want to reciprocate and he whined about how he wanted to fuck my wife, as if I was not even in the room and she was the only one there. We tend to agree or disagree together, so he was SOL. Since then I have interviewed men alone in order to assure they are truly Bi and not trying to get to her through me.

lovinlustin
Gotta love Posers eh.... If i wanted to sleep with a female Last thing i need to do is lie about being bi to do it thats for damn sure... Those guys are clearly moronic at best. Like wtf do you think is is going to happen the guy is gonna be like oh ok your not bi well feel free to go ahead and have sex with my partner while i go watch the shopping channel... Grow up get a life, get some class and then maybe finding single females wouldn't be so hard for you poofters.

thecoolerking00
Wow, I'm having trouble finding a male female couple to meet, I guess we all face some tribulations on this site, I would be furious if somebody lied about their intentions and would definitely ask that person to leave

jdubd_56
Guy's like that make it difficult for us real bi guys. Years ago a gf and I met with a guy that claimed he was bi...turns out he only wanted my gf. So I/we started having anyone that wanted to joined us had to give me head...If they didn't...then they didn't get to enjoy her. So when I meet with a couple, I play with him first .

redhots
We solved the problem, if we're just meeting a single male, we make it clear that the first meeting will just be MM play and the wife will watch...clothed, with NO chance of her playing the first time.

If the guy's a poser, we've found they'll back out. Saves us a lot of time and trouble. It also turns out, for the guys that follow through and really do prove they're bi -- she'll strip and jump in if the mood strikes her (we just don't tell them that, so it's a nice surprise )

Itsmeandyou
I'd love the opportunity to try. If nothing happened with the guy...... provided she was there, I wouldn't be expecting anything from her. Just my opinion.

hotwethoneypot
I have been very frustrated lately. I know that there is an ebb and flow to members, but I don't like the most recent bullying I've experienced and witnessed.

I have found that in SOME (most definitely not all!) couples are using the polyamorous lifestyle to "fix" things.

1. SEX WILL NEVER EVER EVER FIX A RELATIONSHIP - ONLY COMMUNICATION, HONESTY AND TRUST CAN REPAIR A BROKEN BOND!

2. Some partners use the third in a way that is crude and debasing.

3. Some bisexuals are NOT experienced on this site. They know what they want but are shy about getting it. Maybe if someone is shy it will take more than one visit or people should not rush to the bedroom almost forcing someone who is nervous to stay in their comfort zone rather than feel able to explore and enjoy.

4. WHO CARES IF SOMEONE ON HERE IS STRAIGHT! And then you wonder why sexual equality is not a given in this country. Some bi-curious people, especially men are NOT ready to admit outloud they are bi or they are attracted to bi-sexual peeps. DON'T TAKE THEM ON IF BEING STRAIGHT IS OFFENSIVE TO YOU! If you can't accept everyone and not question the method to their madness in a hurtful way, maybe this isn't the forum for you.

5. Sometimes when people realize a fantasy, they realize it was better in their head. Can't fault someone for not getting what they thought they paid for.

I do find a lot of bi-sexual men are more interested in men than women even though they are married. A lot claim they won't kiss as if that changes their orientation, but if you are sucking dick and giving/taking it and love it - you are bi. Give it up. But that is something that only that person can come to terms with on their own time.

I also believe that sexuality is a fluid and life form of itself that lives inside of us. It changes our desires, wants and needs over time. What someone wanted yesterday may be different from today or tomorrow. There are also things that we partake and enjoy all the time.

To me its all ok. I want people to be honest, kind and have fun... I feel more tension, especially since I've had to start using the ignore button. Like I said - those people are making me reconsider my commitment to BSP - as I can see how dishonest or not so sure people make others feel.

bill9961
Wow, it seems like many people out there have run into some liars and fakes. People like that really make it hard.....er, more difficult than it has to be. I have gotten together with a couple of couples and we didn't have to have "tests" or have any one leave feeling like they didn't get what they wanted. We discussed our likes, dislikes, wants and desires through conversations on the phone, email, text...etc before getting together to see if we "clicked". Once we got together and decided to go through with it, we were all comfortable with each other, we all got naked on the bed and had a great time satisfying each other. Being able to touch, kiss, lick anywhere you want to is a wonderful experience.

arp52
Personally I think it should common curtsy If you are the third one in.
Then you you approach and play with the same sex first. Unless you all know one another then do what ever you want. But the first meeting can make or brake a very good time.
Me I would down on that lollop before the pants hit the flour.

A short time ago we into This and boy was It a downer. The misses and I spent the evening drinking the wine by ourselves after showing him the boor.

Blugrassbi
Most folks don't much care if you will or you won't. It's when you say you do and then you don't that gets them to questioning. I am here because I like playing with couples and I like to interact with both.

She wants a show and to take pictures...no problem! I like any combination they might want to try.

extrashaft
One of the best blowjobs I got was a married couple taking turns sucking me

extrashaft
My kinky female friend moved in last week. She had enjoyed me allowing her watch him suck my cock. She brought over a guy friends, took down his pants, and that monster flopped out. We too turns, with all the cum ending up in her. GOOG times!

smoggytomcat
You go Binj. No sucky no fucky!!

bigbaby56
I would like to say all that was said here true when I get an email from s couple its always him my profile state bisexual I never here from the wife or girlfriend I want to chat with her too instead he wants to tell me want he wants is there a way that we can tell if we are talking to him or her without giving up your number and find out its just him what's a girl to do lol