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bihotfun2
Hey all! I love the community here and it always seems to be filled with helpful folks so here goes!

Recently I've committed myself to taking the next step in my bisexuality. For me it's anal play and ultimately anal sex. In the past I've had a couple of failed attempts at receiving a cock in my ass. They were short lived because bof the shock of pain. This was without any prep.

Now I've started using butt plugs and dildos daily in hopes to prepare my ass to comfortably take a cock for a full session. While I'm working up in size (can do about a 2 inch girth) and loving it today I tried something new. For the first time I was able to take a dildo fully. It felt great but still iffy. So I started to fuck myself with it slowly then sped up. I did this alternating slow to fast about 2 minutes and had to stop. The sensation was different. I know I want it but I stopped because it felt like I just couldn't take the feeling of having to have a bowel movement (even though I was enema clean and empty)

My question is does that feeling subside over time and with practice? I also noticed, for lack of a better term, slight burning sensation from the in and out. I was well lubed so also wondering if that goes away with time.

Sorry so wordy! Thanks

nikkimary
Take it slow my wife uses a strap on sometimes on me and a dilldo but I promise get nice and lubed and women find it hot to watch a guy get fucked in the ass

SquidlyJones
I found that the best thing was to learn to enjoy smaller dildos and cocks first before going to bigger ones. Above all relax! This is the best way to deal with the over-stuffed feeling in my experience.
luvhoney85
This was actually pretty helpful for me as well!

tygrwolfeWindingroad
Just be careful with that one. Oil based lubes (including Vaseline, its still petroleum based) will not only break down the dildo, it will also break down the condom. If the burning continues, there are hypoallergenic lubes out there for people who may have reactions to the other types, but I believe they are quite a bit more pricey than the regular ones.

chicagowill
I have never gotten it up the ass but curious after I read the postings here. Interesting advice. Cool

crushed
I am new to the anal world,but i have been getting more and more relaxed as i go. a friend we meet on a vacation got me to the point where max took my ass for the first time ever. 25 plus years of marriage he had been wanting it but i just could not seam to make it happen being a very small woman. what she thought me was the way i finely was able to get relaxed enough.
she used glass anal probes with lots of oil based lube. she slowly went bigger and bigger over time until i read then she had max come ove rand take my ass. it hurt like hell the first time but i knew he wanted my ass since we first meet those many years ago. he came fairly quickly but thank got my max can keep going. we used lots of lube as he worked my ass for what seamed like hours. it wasn't but it sure felt like it.
since then i have bought my own glass anal plugs to practice with until max and i meet up. i like the glass ones because they can be cleaned and sanitized, so my BF up her can use them too with out worrying about infections.
to me the glass makes more sense.you can even send them though the dish washer. now wouldn't that be funny to see some unsuspecting person open the dishwasher
Teri

greglee
ive been doing the same thing too! but Ive recently been trying to have a hands free anal orgasm, pretty tough. My vibe feels great and I get that same feeling of a pending BM too, but usually it subsides.

Robert4friends
I like glass ot stainless steel toys best. They are easier to insert because they are so smooth. You might try coconut butter from the grocery store. I think it is better than petroleum or chemical products inside your body. I have not had problems with condoms or damaged toys either.

I started anal play in childhood and first with man at 19. It's all fun with a partner who knows what he is doing. Some assholes get off on hurting you. Strap-ons are nice but don't stretch too much. My ex used some so big no guy could compete. Made it hard to feel a real cock. Want some extra zing? Try figging. Makes your prostate begging for relief.

sweecocksucker69
I really enjoy my ass being intruded with a mans penis, and to keep myself prepared my weekly anal fucking, several days a week I give myself a good Emma / douching, this usually last a good 45 minutes making sure that my bowels is really clean, I lube my ass up and now I'm ready for good ass reaming either by my male lover or my wife strap-on, either way I feel then massaging my prostate being me to a huge anal orgasm.

bihotfun2
You guys did not disappoint! Thanks for all the great advice. I've been working at it for the past few weeks and it keeps getting better! Now I'm taking bigger toys like 3" size, and have grown used to the feeling of being penetrated in and out. And now I confess...I LOVE IT! Someone mentioned it earlier and it's true...I crave the feeling to be filled up!

nybili
If you find that water lubes dry up, try almond or a light olive oil. Although they are oil based thy are not petroleum based and will not break down a condom or the toy. You can also use oil bsed lubes with silicone toys. I find the silicone ones to be more stable and less irritating just use silicone lube with them that will break down a silicone toy.
benjiii
never had anal sex yet by another person. Have used replica dicks and love it but would like to try real thing.

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