smoggytomcat
Why is it that all of the people that actually meet and have the most interesting profiles are always in California,Texas, Florida Or New York. Why is it that no one seems real in Tenn, or Georgia or even Kty? Oh yes we talk and set up dates and they never cum through. Is that because we are in "the bible belt"? Or are we just so insecure? It seems to me that we really don't what sharing sex with others is all about. I guess its just me here. Can anyone help me understand why this region I live in is so disappointing?

markthebear
Could be just the numbers, those areas of success u mentioned are densely populated. More people more chances! Religion, holdind people back , could be, i hope some others comment on here. M

alcor
Have the same trouble here in Ohio, but like mark the bear said it could be because of the population density.

Blugrassbi
I have met folks from Kentucky, Tennessee, and Ohio. In a couple of cases drove a hundred miles or so to meet them. In some cases, everyone hit it off and things went further. In a couple cases, it was nice to meet, but the spark just wasn't there. There were also a couple of cases where perhaps the "idea" of swinging was exciting, but when it came time to keep an appointment, a case of cold feet developed. That is to be expected. What I find intolerable is those who talk a good game, but who get their jollies by standing someone up.

crushed
I have to agree about population density. Max and I have a home in Laguna beach as well as a small home in Vancouver.BC . we have a lot more play friends in so cal then when we want to play in Vancouver.. you would think that Vancouver would be more open to the lifestyle but i find when it comes to swinging it does not have a big following. there is a large lesbian community up here but most are not interested in a married woman. even if max is not going to join in its still have to find a woman to play with. back home in Laguna beach California i find lots of swingers and single woman to keep me happy.i guess it is geographical location
best of luck to you
Teri and Max

Robert4friends
I took a look at your profile and all seems fine. I see that you are more on the new side with little experience. That can be a good thing. There are a lot of "new" guys in our age group. Maybe focus more on meeting new guys one on one. About 80% of the men I have met after my divorce 5 years ago was for their first time or the first in many years. Couples are attractive but may not want to bother with inexperience.

nybili
ive met a few people on here,but im from Long Island. with a rather large range to play with. but even with that. Many couples really want the bi female, much rarer to want to play with a bi male. age also matters too. just have to keep at it. until u succeed. I have traveled a hundred mile to meet someone. you have to be willing to do some traveling. anyway best of luck and remember anytime you go on a trip. Look at where you are going and see if someone is available there. i have done quite well on some travel trips.

iwant2bintn
When I get back to Tennessee we will hook up. Count on it

smoggytomcat
TY for all the replies on this subject. All are valued. I'm not really interested in "new" guys unless they are sincere about their desires. Things could happen it was true. I'm not very inexperienced in what I want either. My problem seems to be that most men here within my proximaty only wish to talk. And they talk a good story too. They talk about meeting, but never show up. Maybe its just me. Now what about the gals? Is my profile so shallow that I can't include ladies?