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Curiousbuttaken013
My fiance and I have recently started talking about adding another female to the bedroom on occasion. It sounded great at first and I was turned on by the idea. But now I'm second guessing how I'll feel about him kissing someone else or having sex with someone else. I think it would be so sexy to have another girl helping me suck his cock or him watching us play but that's not really a three some then.. I'm torn between telling him I changed my mind and trying it despite my feelings. Who knows I might like it but I'm just not sure. Advice or opinions would be appreciated!!
My fiance and I have recently started talking about adding another female to the bedroom on occasion. It sounded great at first and I was turned on by the idea. But now I'm second guessing how I'll feel about him kissing someone else or having sex with someone else. I think it would be so sexy to have another girl helping me suck his cock or him watching us play but that's not really a three some then.. I'm torn between telling him I changed my mind and trying it despite my feelings. Who knows I might like it but I'm just not sure. Advice or opinions would be appreciated!!
Lionessa
This is just my 2cents..
It doesn't matter what you consider a three some. What matters are your feelings about doing it and expressing them immediately to your partner.
Is it worth what you may lose to go ahead and try it while not being honest with him?
Could he be saying yes because he thinks it's what you want but he's not really into it?
If either of you have even the slightest doubt, don't. Be open and honest with each other from the very beginning. You do not want to start a marriage with a lie. Keep the lines of communication open. It will help bring you together.
Heck, it could even help you find a middle ground you are both comfortable in, when the time is right.
Good Luck
Nessa
This is just my 2cents..
It doesn't matter what you consider a three some. What matters are your feelings about doing it and expressing them immediately to your partner.
Is it worth what you may lose to go ahead and try it while not being honest with him?
Could he be saying yes because he thinks it's what you want but he's not really into it?
If either of you have even the slightest doubt, don't. Be open and honest with each other from the very beginning. You do not want to start a marriage with a lie. Keep the lines of communication open. It will help bring you together.
Heck, it could even help you find a middle ground you are both comfortable in, when the time is right.
Good Luck
Nessa
cplluvspussy620
I felt the same way when i had my first so i still had threesomes but had rules. No intercourse between them and no kissing between them. Everything else can be done. Good luck
I felt the same way when i had my first so i still had threesomes but had rules. No intercourse between them and no kissing between them. Everything else can be done. Good luck
crushed
curious
if you decide to go forward with this you CAN NOT have any jealousy issues. it will pull you apart. you don't have to think of him kissing her as a commitment. its part of the throws of passion and foreplay. as for him fucking her. its the same thing, you have to look at it as a natural animalistic urge man has had since day one. the desire to procreate.
as for max and I, I love to watch him with another woman. I get so hot knowing the pleasure that woman is receiving. just as max loves watching me with another man or woman. to me its kind of like finding a secret restaurant. you want to share the experience with close friends. knowing they will enjoy it as much as you do. you have to accept that it is purely physical. there is fucking and there is making love-they are very different.
my suggestion is to find an adult party house. go to one on a weekend night where you can watch. you don't have to do anything or you can go full out and screw your brains out. its totally up to you. see how you feel in that situation. that's how Max and I got into the lifestyle.in the long run this life style saved our marriage
if i can answer and question for ya just mail me. i would be happy to help.
hope this helps
Teri and Max
curious
if you decide to go forward with this you CAN NOT have any jealousy issues. it will pull you apart. you don't have to think of him kissing her as a commitment. its part of the throws of passion and foreplay. as for him fucking her. its the same thing, you have to look at it as a natural animalistic urge man has had since day one. the desire to procreate.
as for max and I, I love to watch him with another woman. I get so hot knowing the pleasure that woman is receiving. just as max loves watching me with another man or woman. to me its kind of like finding a secret restaurant. you want to share the experience with close friends. knowing they will enjoy it as much as you do. you have to accept that it is purely physical. there is fucking and there is making love-they are very different.
my suggestion is to find an adult party house. go to one on a weekend night where you can watch. you don't have to do anything or you can go full out and screw your brains out. its totally up to you. see how you feel in that situation. that's how Max and I got into the lifestyle.in the long run this life style saved our marriage
if i can answer and question for ya just mail me. i would be happy to help.
hope this helps
Teri and Max
Guywho
You get to negotiate what you are and are not comfortable with. I think he'd be pretty up to see you 2 play and promise of some oral from both of you should have him more than up. Maybe just let him know you are the one that decides if they can kiss or penetrate...
You get to negotiate what you are and are not comfortable with. I think he'd be pretty up to see you 2 play and promise of some oral from both of you should have him more than up. Maybe just let him know you are the one that decides if they can kiss or penetrate...
smoggytomcat
I'm with Nessa and crushed on this 1. If there is any thought in your head that says no. Don't do it! If the thought of another woman turns you on you cannot be jealous if you include your hubby. I'm sure your hubby would understand if you and her just wanted to carry on. Would you kiss her as foreplay before enjoying further endeavours? It is not away to start a marriage. You should have the fun between each other before you can be comfy enough to share each other with others. I respect you for asking though. Its really up to you and him to decide together. Just be honest with him about your feelings and your desires.
I'm with Nessa and crushed on this 1. If there is any thought in your head that says no. Don't do it! If the thought of another woman turns you on you cannot be jealous if you include your hubby. I'm sure your hubby would understand if you and her just wanted to carry on. Would you kiss her as foreplay before enjoying further endeavours? It is not away to start a marriage. You should have the fun between each other before you can be comfy enough to share each other with others. I respect you for asking though. Its really up to you and him to decide together. Just be honest with him about your feelings and your desires.
AlleyBear
Rule Number One.
If you start second guessing, don't start messin'
the consequences will be problematic in your relationship if you go through with something you just cannot convince yourself that you really want to do it. You both have to be in agreement with wanting anyone to join in with you both. Realize this, the threesome will also be a twosome with you participating. rather than you and him with someone else participating. We had a threesome with a man, and another two times with different women. however, the jealousy just was not there for us. we view all activity with anyone else as physical which differs greatly from emotional. Having said that, it is not for everybody, and in fact, we have decided not to pursue looking for anyone. We have become incidental, meaning if it happens it happens, if not we will continue to get freaky with each other. The best sex we have ever had has really been with each other. but you have to go beyond the standard bang bang shoot shoot same position every day.
s, soft swap, fetish, swinging. whatever you decide, be prepared to have your emotional self argue with your physical self.
It can be rewarding, fulfilling and satisfying just as much as it can be frustrating, heartbreaking and distressing. just make sure you both are honest with each other and discuss what you want out of it. set the ground rules and have no regrets about the decision.
Most of all. do not let yourself get pressured into something you just do not want.
Rule Number One.
If you start second guessing, don't start messin'
the consequences will be problematic in your relationship if you go through with something you just cannot convince yourself that you really want to do it. You both have to be in agreement with wanting anyone to join in with you both. Realize this, the threesome will also be a twosome with you participating. rather than you and him with someone else participating. We had a threesome with a man, and another two times with different women. however, the jealousy just was not there for us. we view all activity with anyone else as physical which differs greatly from emotional. Having said that, it is not for everybody, and in fact, we have decided not to pursue looking for anyone. We have become incidental, meaning if it happens it happens, if not we will continue to get freaky with each other. The best sex we have ever had has really been with each other. but you have to go beyond the standard bang bang shoot shoot same position every day.
s, soft swap, fetish, swinging. whatever you decide, be prepared to have your emotional self argue with your physical self.It can be rewarding, fulfilling and satisfying just as much as it can be frustrating, heartbreaking and distressing. just make sure you both are honest with each other and discuss what you want out of it. set the ground rules and have no regrets about the decision.
Most of all. do not let yourself get pressured into something you just do not want.
Curiousbuttaken013
Thank you for all of the advice. We have discussed thoruloughly and my fears are now gone. I'm excited to see where this will take our sex life! We have found another girl who understands what we are looking for and seems perfect for us. We plan on meeting in two weeks. First her and I and then he will join when he gets off work. I appreciate all of the comments!
Thank you for all of the advice. We have discussed thoruloughly and my fears are now gone. I'm excited to see where this will take our sex life! We have found another girl who understands what we are looking for and seems perfect for us. We plan on meeting in two weeks. First her and I and then he will join when he gets off work. I appreciate all of the comments!
crushed
good luck curious and welcome to the dark side. first timers are limited to three orgasms an hour. your second time around go for it
Teri and Max
good luck curious and welcome to the dark side. first timers are limited to three orgasms an hour. your second time around go for it
Teri and Max
iLoveCouples
I just want to say here that it is SO WONDERFUL to have this bisexual COMMUNITY where people can ask a real honest question, and receive honest answers and advice from others who don't even know them...but care enough to share their thoughts and experiences. WOW! That really is amazing and very powerful. I read no stupid or sarcastic or judgmental replies...only heartfelt good natured advice and thought-provoking ideas.
You all are the best!
Bobby
I just want to say here that it is SO WONDERFUL to have this bisexual COMMUNITY where people can ask a real honest question, and receive honest answers and advice from others who don't even know them...but care enough to share their thoughts and experiences. WOW! That really is amazing and very powerful. I read no stupid or sarcastic or judgmental replies...only heartfelt good natured advice and thought-provoking ideas.
You all are the best!
Bobby