CadetPoole
I've never had anal sex and would like to know how to/ and anything else about it....

freewolf
The most important things to remeber is to take it slow and use lots of lube. Also youll want to relax. The more your worried your going to tighten up and it will end up being more painfull then it should. It will hurt at first thats why you want to take it slow. Once you get use to it, it is very enjoyable

Outside of that start off with a small dildo, vibe, or plug. If you have a partner willing to use fingers thats a good place to start as well.

Good luck and have fun,
~Jim

Firedawgash
I'm with Free. I highly reccomend buying a plug you can leave in for awhile, get used to it and get used to relaxing with it in. I started with one, then moved up in size and next thing you know Jen's buying a strapon..lol.

BillySue32605
Having enjoyed anal sex for over 20 yrs. now as a passive & dominant partner I find all of these suggestions to be very good for anyone interested in exploring the world of anal sex... No matter what though, use lots of lube if you are a beginner, take your time, be gentle, and follow your partners lead... Also, you may want to think about having a "Safe Word" to ensure that both the passive and insertee can fully enjoy it... In most cases you'll be able to tell when a passive partner is ready for you to fully assault them... Clue: When they start meeting your thrust with positive movements of their own...

Enjoy & have fun...

Billy

CadetPoole
thanks guys for all the help.....

truckerncc1701
ya they are right on you must use a lot of lub and i find that if you use fingers first to loosen up start with 1 then go from there it works great i have enjoyed so long you will to

eagerandopen
s are great for practising too. That way you can go as slow as you are able till you open up to bigger possibilities Hehehehe

chublover
Every guy is different. Some of us take a LONG time to get from the OW to the OOOOHHHH. Some guys never even have an OW phase they have to get through! Just find a patient partner, and whether you start off with a dildo or a dick, just remember there IS pleasure after the pain. Just don't panic, and if you can stand the pain (assuming you experience any at all), just try lying perfectly still until it passes. You'll be suprised at just how soon YOU'LL go from ow to ooooohhhh!!!!

wetkitty18
listen to all of the above.




stick it in my....

ladyred77
ok let us know when and where

coordination_kid
Yes, Lube, and lots of it and relaxation really helps. Always at first start of with something small like your finger. Once your hole opens up as you relax, you will be able to take larger objects. The first couple of times you try a dildo, or a vibrator, you may want to be alone, as it can be a bit of an uncomfortable thing have someone watch you. The first time I did it, I was by myself in the bathroom. Once I was comfortable with putting it in, and my (at the time) wife was comfortable with the idea, I moved to the bedroom and it became part of our sexual play.

Another thing you may want to keep in mind is that you should make sure your bowels are empty. Other wise it can get a bit messy.

C_K

Cat_aTonic
I have only had it once, but the one who was with me went slow and made sure to relax me first. I think that was the important part......

Choklat_Diva
Wow!I first learned the do's and dont's of anal pleasure from sex magazine advice column, you definately have to relax at the start and if your mind isn't into it the your body doesnt want it and you will tense up,i watch a lot of anal videos,i like to watch it makes so horny,i have yet to see up close anal.my ex was my first everything so he would be my first anal,but only twice b-cause he was at least 11" and that was just to much for me,i eventually did myself after a day of self pleasure,i find that no more than 7 and half is all im willing to take.Lubrication is so helpful it actually shortens the ow! moment,also if you get really into the sex you will automatically relax,my boyfriend now is perfect so ive even learned new positions,i just have to learn not to want anal all the time(which is why i watch the videos).Enjoy,tip:if you controll the actual act you can go at your own pace.ooh!yeah!

Cboyvers
I've been anal-active for over 30 years, I started young, and a few things that helped in the beginning were 1. Using a decent, at least lube. I know now that water based is best because it cleans out easiest. Petroleum based lubes. Vaseline etc. are know to enable bacteria growth. 2. Only insert what you are fairly sure you can handle to start. Fingers, are obvious and getting familiar with yourself first can prevent awkward moments with others. Try taking a hot shower or bath first to help relax your muscles. I personally find girth the most important. Sometimes too thin hurts more than thick. Also focus on opening up more than taking length. Most guys have a depth limit, which brings me to 3. Douche, not vaginal or any feminine products because the anus contains healthy little microlife that fights infection. Fleet enemas are cheap and easily available. You can even warm them up. If you are carrying a load aside from the cleanup you will have resistance. Having a handheld shower head should be a requirement, use your imagination. Also if you meet someone with a douce wand attachment remember START THE WATER FLOWING OUTSIDE OF YOUR BODY AND ADJUST THE PRESSURE LOW! You can really hurt yourself by overenthusiastic play at first and should work up to more. If you are using dildos the best are the latex flexible type an be sure to spend money on ones without any plastic mold ridges or edges. These types can be warmed up in a sink of hot water, cold stuff causes just what any cold in the groin of men causes. 5. Get and keep your dick interested first then relax and take your time. If you do this you will find that you can keep things hot for quite a while so don't blow your load right off the bat. Take breaks relaxing and starting again. If you get with someone who is versatile top and bottom you will find they know the feelings and won't be as clumsy as some top only guys or girls can be. Always remember if it hurts stop. If possible hold the position, don't pull out because in beginners the clenching reaction can be strong. Hold the dildo at the point of pain for a few seconds and then try adding pressure easily to push past. About 1/4"" in you will be passing the sphincter and the muscle is usually on guard so to speak but will relax fairly quickly if you pass it. Good luck and practice, practice, practice. Oh yeah always wash up with anti-bacterial soap any reusable toys. and don't store latex toys with leather because the leather will react with the latex and stain.

carol_danny
Actually, we never use any lubricants for anal sex. Carol hates the feel of them. We found lots of saliva works really well, for us anyway.

-- Danny

Me inside Carol's butt!

Timmy2
I love being fucked in my ass, start off with tongue, fingers, then toys or cock . I have had some awesome females, been stimulating my prostate for bout 10 years, it is the male g spot. I spray cum everywhere, covering everything and have multiple orgasms. i love the power play,