We have only been together since March, 2005 and have only been in the lifestyle since mid-2005. We are very much in love and expect to be together for the rest of our lives. Although I (Dean) had been hetero all my life, I had many homo fantasies, and I had several experiences with other men before we met. We have had several terrific s with other men who are also bi, but we have not yet met the right woman that Lorene feels comfortable enough with to give it a try. We are still looking for that right woman or couple. Some of the time we play separately, and we both love to fuck bareback.
Short, stocky, not HWP, small prong, shaved.
I'm generally even-tempered, have a sense of humor, tend to be sentimental, and at times almost excessively aware of others' feelings and what I perceive to be how I affect them. Hence I'm cautious nearly to a fault in my dealings with other folks, till I get to know them & vice versa.
Apropos of my sexual behavior, I've been hetero most of my life, save for one homo experience in my 20s with a guy around my age whose wife and my then girlfriend were going at it hot & heavy after a "swapsies" encounter. All the prurient pyrotechnics took place on a king-size bed, with the ladies exploring & caressing each other's plumbing fixtures & orifices on side, while us gents popped one another's cookies on the other side. Don't know if he swallowed, but I sure did; the experience gave me an understanding of why some ladies are wont swallow a load of warm jizz.
After that, I never sought to get it on with a guy until the past year or so. I suppose my advancing age, coupled with a few pertinent domestic & external factors, has awakened my dormant attraction to male plumbing fixtures & so forth. So I'm actively looking to get my feet wet and face creamed, as it were.
Big and Tall (6'5"(see pictures). Think "linebacker." Personality wise - I'd say I'm easygoing, layback, regular guy. I think I have a talent for putting other people at ease. since I can always find something in common to talk about. Friends say I have a good sense of humor and pretty fun to be around. I'm a fairly confident person, in the sense that I'm comfortable walking into a room full of strangers and walking right up to someone in order to strike up a conversation. As far as my personal "likes" are concerned... I'm pretty much a man's man which means I like things like... you know football, outdoors, tools, etc. I'm fairly competent in most things and have a knack for getting things done.
But most importantly, I'm a safe and sane, overly educated professional who is as "buttoned down" in his professional life as he is "unbutton" in his personal life. I'm reliable, descreet, trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind... oh wait, opps... I see that I have lapsed into the Boy Scout Pledge. Not too surprising since I actually am, after all, an Eagle Scout (which I kind hate to admit given their current political position on same-sex). But it explains my love of the outdoors, naturism, camping,... at the very least. Obviously... I'm also discreet, STD-Free and Drama Free. If you cannot say the same... its not gonna work out.
With respect to play - I've had a lot of experience in various "lifestyles" and explored a pretty wide gambit... at least enough to know what I like. Not that there is nothing left to learn, new adventures are often the most fun... its just that the "to do list" is quickly becoming the "to do again" list.
My experience has taught me that I can learn something from pretty much everyone I meet, regardless of their experience level, but I find myself gravitating to the most adventurous and well traveled playmates. I'm always looking for someone who likes to explore and can challenge me physically and intellectually.
I am a true hedonist - in other words - a sexual pleasure seeker. As such, I take pleasure where I find it... whether the source is female or male (or other). I just believe that, for me, having both is better than having either alone... that is why I am bi. Oh and bi the way... those who say bi people are just confused homo or hetro sexuals... WRONG! I am living proof of why they are wrong.. In fact, my strong preference is not only for both sexes, but for both at the same time (the reason I like couples and groups).
Although my attraction is definitely different for each sex. For example, I have no romantic attraction for men (i.e. I have no interest in kissing and cuddling with guys the way I do with girls). But by the same token, there are aspects of my sexual desire than can ONLY be satisfied by a man. Again being a greedy hedonist... I want and need both. Either alone is not as hot as both together - particularly if they are as into it as I am. I mean really, is there anything better than being in bed with both men and women where all hands and holes are available for the mutual pleasure of all? As Paris Hilton would say... "That's hot." Which brings me to my biggest hot button....
Bottomline: I only get turn on when my partner(s) are turned on. Otherwise... its just not going to work no matter what else I might be involved. This is actually a good thing for prospective play partners in that in the name of self interest, I am as interested in turning them on as I am in turning myself on - since, as I said, they are the same thing. Also, while I might prefer playmates with experience... enthusiasm makes up for just about anything including lack of experience. In over words, If you are really into it... chances are excellent that I will be too. But the opposite is true too. This means that I can be a bit of a sexual chameleon with an entire rainbow of colors... for the person(s) with the right attitude... but if they lack enthusiasm, sense of adventure and willingness to give everything their best shot... no rainbow is ever going to have that pot of gold in the end... er... so to speak. (How did I get on rainbows? what next unicorns?). Ok, but you get my point. If you are not enthused about the possibilities... I guarantee I won't be either. And to be blunt... we shouldn't waste each others time. On the other hand... if you have similar positive attitude about play and social relationships... maybe we should talk. Just that simple. No big whoop. Never know... might be the perfect match, but we'll never know unless someone finds the nerve to step to the plate and take an at bat.... what do we have to lose?
This is a great topic.
Of course the 2 examples you listed are good, but they don't apply to Bi-sexuality per se, since it is easy to
persue those behaviors hetrosexually. The drive behind bi-sexuality has to do with emotion, not just sex. My wife likes to say that a woman has sex from the heart to the crotch, whereas a man has sex from the crotch to the heart. Simple yet effective.
In order to be same-sexual (Homo/Bi) for men, there is an underlying need for an emotional release.
Our society is just starting to recognise this need and the behaviors it brings about. The acceptance
by society is increasing (same-sex marrraige, etc) and so the number of same-sexual (Bi/Homo)
partnerships appears to increase as well. The key word is 'appears', none can say the numbers have changed at all.
This is just an overview, there are many reasons why, on an individual basis, men opt for bi-sexuality.
I think we will be having a lot of discussion on this topic, if people really want to get that deep into it here
that is .
It's a matter of "translation" -- how men & women translate the raw experience into something that each can understand. Women tend to interpret situations emotionally (today a girl at work told me "the copy machine HATES me!", men tend to go for the mechanical, which is why guys are often so insensitive. Two different languages for the same action, I guess.
The vulnerability-after-the-orgasm trick works with both sexes, BTW. (I've exploited it mostly in hetero play) but that's another story...
There's virtually no Bisexual "sex," really. The sex act (fucking, fellatio, cunilingus, etc) is either Hetero or homo, depending on the players. So "bisexual", "hetero" and so forth, really refer to a person's overall average or self image. Nearly everybody engages in same-sex play when they're young, and there are plenty of hard-core gays who're married with kids. So the distinctions refer to what prefer, not what you do. Of course, what you prefer seems to be genetically programmed...
I understand that people on hormone therapy, and transgender people, often find that their worldview changes with the body chemistry, but I'm not the guy to talk about that.
f you were watching me while I was sucking on another man's penis, you'd see that I was totally absorbed in it & enjoying the sensation, the control & the expectation of his ejaculation. I'd be pretty darned homosexual at that moment, at least 90%. A little while later, when he & I have switched places, if you were speaking to me, I could tell you that I was about 70% homo, enjoying the pleasure & the thrill of my penis dissapearing into his throat, but a bit uncomfortable. As I apprach orgasm, It drops to maybe 50% as I start to feel a bit of humiliation about what I'm doing. With the first spasm of my orgasm, there's a moment of denial & helplessness (10% homo), but that slingshots me into the full pleasure & energy of the sex act & my sole interest at that moment is to inseminate the mouth, ass, cunt, cock, hand, ches or tits of the person who's pleasuring me. At that moment I'm 99.44% whatever they want me to be. It also accounts for the vulnerability after the orgasm. (and it accounts for why sex with someone you don't get along with is so interesting!)
My perspective is that your sexuality has to do with who you're comfortable being intimate with (a sexual-emotional bond). I don't relate to men that way, but perhaps more sex & a bit of deliberate training might change me?
I'm cumshy when a man is working my penis, unless a woman is present.
My hertero side fighting with my homo side, I guess.
I had an agressively bi girlfriend once who admitted that she loved women but couldn't orgasm with 'em, so she always took the part of the aggressor.
Not very experienced but I, as a bottom find that in this b,i or other gay site, all the tops are ready to suck and if he fucks, to get fuck too. As a teenager ( I did it from 12 till 17, after that, straight for many many years) yes, some straight boys were pure top, needless to say how enjoyable were, but they were not looking for bi (homo they called me) like me, just a freee good fuck
My wife and I have been married over 30 years (high-school sweethearts). Early in our marriage we started sharing fantasies together. We finally got "brave" enough to give a hint or two that we found homo/bi sex a bit exciting. After a bit of this, we finally opened up to each other and learned that both of us had previous same sex experiences. I can only encourage anyone in a relationship to be honest about who you really are. It is so much fun to share this part of our lives together.
Sorry it is taking me so long to get to your very well posed question..
Bob if anything it makes me feel you are very secure in your manhood in just asking that question and being able to explore your sexuality. A person's sexual preference does not make them more or less of a man or woman..it is a part of who they are..just as being male and female (and in some cases nature needs a push in another direction for some folks..)
its like the game where you trust someone to catch you as you fall. Rest assured Bob, we've got you!
Just as many guys find the idea of two women intimate with each other very erotic, a whole lotta women find two men getting hot and bothered with each other equally erotic...and might even encourage you to show off a bit for them...ain't that right Bobbert? LOL
The most erotic thing about a person to me is their attitude cause when it comes right down to it, friendship and love are the biggest aphrodisiacs of all...therefore oh baby oh baby oh baby Bobbert you are the whole bag of chips, an enchilada with a whole lotta salsa on the side...
"I love man sex" just a short quote from a recent very homo-erotic story I submitted here is an example of my opinion...makes me wet as all get out and my liver quiver baby...
Anyway Tigs has got to go and get dolled up for a big day ahead..
ya lots Bobbert,
PS you sure know how to put a huge smile on a person's face Bobbert!
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