A good first meeting involves an initial e-mail with pictures (going both ways), chatting online, then setting up a "date" -- a time and place to meet in a public location where there is no pressure on either (or any) of the parties. On meeting we will either click or we won't. If not, we will go our separate ways; if we do, we can either play that day/night (your place, my place, hotel, car, outdoors, or public location, etc.), or set up something in the near future. Total time from initial e-mail to arranging a "date" should be measured in days (or hours if we both happen to be online at the same time), depending on schedules and people who might get online only on weekends, not weeks or months. (I know some people prefer to go slower, and I'm not against that, but either we will click fairly quickly online or we won't. I [and I presume you] am not looking for a soul mate, just some great sex and maybe good friends too, and it doesn't take weeks or months to figure that out.) The actual date might not take place right away due to conflicting schedules and maybe arranging babysitters, but ideally it would happen sooner rather than later.