cu_bi_guyNVC is a process or language intended to create a consciousness that avoids relating based on judging, blaming, or deserving of reward or punishment, but instead focuses on clear observations, feelings, needs, and doable requests so that everyone's needs are more likely to be met, and met out of playful joy, giving to others motivated by the need to contribute as opposed to motivations like guilt or shame. (See: cnvc.org)