: We would meet at a bar or restaurant near where they live, because I can't host. we would talk about what we are honestly interrested in as we check eachother out for appearance, demeanor, personality and decide whether we want to continue with another meeting, to go back to their place and get to know eachother even better or to say "it was nice meeting you but I am not interrested in a relationship with you.
Pretty much the same with a lady, meet first, find out if there is any reason to continue.