Biliteral
This is a great topic.
Of course the 2 examples you listed are good, but they don't apply to Bi-sexuality per se, since it is easy to
persue those behaviors hetrosexually. The drive behind bi-sexuality has to do with emotion, not just sex. My wife likes to say that a woman has sex from the heart to the crotch, whereas a man has sex from the crotch to the heart. Simple yet effective.
In order to be same-sexual (Homo/Bi) for men, there is an underlying need for an emotional release.
Our society is just starting to recognise this need and the behaviors it brings about. The acceptance
by society is increasing (same-sex marrraige, etc) and so the number of same-sexual (Bi/Homo)
partnerships appears to increase as well. The key word is 'appears', none can say the numbers have changed at all.
This is just an overview, there are many reasons why, on an individual basis, men opt for bi-sexuality.
I think we will be having a lot of discussion on this topic, if people really want to get that deep into it here
that is .
Thanks,
Biliteral

CTMarriedBi
I think sexuality is not black or white. It's a spectrum of gray. uality is a spectrum from pure heterosexual to pure homosexual, and all gradations inbetween. Why we fit where we do is anyones guess, but as we mature, we begin to realize where on the spectrum we lie. Society likes black and white answers, in real life we get gray.

Opleezfma
because we're at the point where we are no longer trying to maintain the dogma of what our society has bred into us. we now have and are motivated by the pleasure of our own interest, be it something started years ago or today. this almost sounds like women's impowerment, but perhaps its the individual in us all which desires the right to enjoy her or her own passions.

Opleezfma
because we're at the point where we are no longer trying to maintain the dogma of what our society has bred into us. we now have and are motivated by the pleasure of our own interest, be it something started years ago or today. this almost sounds like women's impowerment, but perhaps its the individual in us all which desires the right to enjoy her or her own passions.

Sweet_harem_girl
Hey CT, you took the words right out of my mouth. I usually say that we are all born bisexual. And as we mature we start to lean towards one end or the other. Your wording was much better. LOL Makes more sense.

Ann

stillsteve
I think that as people age and (hopefully) become secure in who they are they become more open to trying things out. Part of being secure in your own identity is not needing to see things in absolute, black and white terms. I think that some degree of mental and emotional flexibility is the mark of well adjusted person. So, Bi's are the well adjusted ones!

fribble
BiMelos, you're not too far off the mark with your reply about us being born bisexual. In the animal kingdom, of which we are a part, the higher up the ladder of rational thought an animal climbs, the more capable they are of feeling pleasure.

There are actually two kinds of sex. The first being the type all living organisms are programmed with to procreate. The second occurs only in higher thinking animals, specifically mammals, where pleasure is involved. is normally a very pleasurable act. Rational thinking animals (like humans) enjoy pleasure the most. Therefore, we enjoy sex quite a lot. The act is what we enjoy, or in other words, the pleasure associated with an orgasmic event.

As some of us mature, we crave that pleasure more and seek new ways to achieve it. Bisexuality is something many of us naturally experimented with as youngsters, but abandoned when we were informed of the social taboos attached to same sex relationships. It's actually the social taboos that are keeping many people from exploring their bisexuality. In many cultures, both ancient and modern, bisexuality among males (was) is quite common and even encouraged. We are all born to seek pleasure. In this case, sexual pleasure.

So, it's natural for us, as we grow older, to think less of societys imposed stigmas and seek out pleasure in whatever way we choose. As long, of course, as it's not damaging to anyone else. Perhaps someday, our modern western society will once again embrace bisexuality as perfectly normal behavior. Too bad it's not right now.

Go both ways, it increases your chances of getting a date by 100%!
FRIB

RedFox
The question is "Why are there so many Bi-curious Middle Aged Men"? My answer getting down to the nitty gritty is that a man, in general has 10 times the Physical drive that a woman has! Why do men typically have to PAY for sexual enjoyment when most women do not? There are many exceptions to this, but I feel this general rule holds! Many middle aged men have been LOCKED down in relationships that may be mostly exclusive and they are supressed or prohibited by those very relationships sexually! Women in our society have been bred from the very beginning to resist sexual pleasure and thus women are supressed in that way! Isn't this really kinda sick when we do things to supress people? As we get older, some of us realize that allot of the constraints that were put on us as youngsters just do not apply anymore and we are now ALLOWED to actually enjoy ourselves uninhibited, whatever your personal choices. After all, who are we hurting when there are two or more consenting adults participating! True freedom comes from allowing yourself to do whatever you want, NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS OR EXPECTS! After all, we only have ourselves to answer to when the end comes, so why not enjoy life in whatever capacity you can.

ctearl
Maybe more men are just coming with grips about sexuality. Being older we are not so affarid of what was pounded into us at younger ages about beening the masculine one around other guys. Now that women are more out their in society, having more control of their own destinies, which I am in favor of, it gives us more of a chance to control our destinies. Not be affarid to live our lives too, take chances, have fun. Be the kind of men we want to be not what society thinks we should be

oralsexpertinpa
You all got it wrong! Our wives could care less about sex, other women our age think that they should have a "young" stud, younger women want what most of can't provide time(if we are married). So, we look for sex where we can find it. Some pay to play with prostitutes, others say a warm mouth and a tight asshole is no different with a man or a woman. "Bi-curious" BS everyone is bisexual just some are afraid to admit it.

CharlieB999
Going to revive this topic here...

I can only speak for myself here, not going to attempt to speak for others. My mate is my age, 52, and her interest in sex has just been reawakend thankfully by me(so she tells me). And she's aggresive at times, which I love. So...at age 52, with no danger of putting a "bun in the oven", we are very active sexually. Now, as to why my decision to explore the bi side at this stage of my life. Well, in my case it is a matter of timing. I live alone at the moment so if I decide to go meet someone from here, I just shower and go. Frankly, at my age, the social stigmas don't mean a whole lot although I don't go around bugling off at the mouth about it, I don't hide it any more than my hetero behavior. And, the fact that my time here is limited and at a certain age, we all become aware of this, I intend to attempt to do all the things I put off doing because I was raising a family, working my butt off, etc. As I am older now, and I am aware that the time I have here is less & less...I guess it has always been a life affirming activity to have intimacy, I mean what makes you feel more alive than the rush of pleasure you get touching someone you care for? Anyway, those are my reasons. I guess I am also revisiting the experiences of my pre-teen years when my buddy & I used to hang together at his house after school. I feel the need to find out if it is still as much fun as it was then. So there you have it...Regards all.

joey_blowey
I just want to bond with a man an open up and let him in me! I've had one encounter and I wasn't penetrated...I would love a Man to lay me on my back spread me open and kiss me deeply as he enters me. Its all emotion for me. I have a need to connect with another man and I want to really connect! I'm very masculine in my personality and very straight acting. I've even had gay men make fun of how straight I am. However, my desire seems quite feminine, I'm really okay with that but I don't want everyone to know about it n that goes back to societal views, i guess...anyway, any takers on fulfilling my desire?

smoggytomcat
My view is narrow,At a younger age, I just wanted to please the ladies and no way did that include males! As I grew older,I became courious about what women really liked.I've still not figured that out.All I ever knew was that to be a good lover you have to please the ladies.Then on variuos sites,I became to understand that some ladies wanted to see their male partner with another male.That turned me on! So as I'm an older man,I became bi for the ladies enjoyment and giving up the taboos of programmed life of the 70's.So now ,I'm bi,and enjoy being so.

mcal3049
Like several people have posted on here, I experimented as a youth a couple of times. I've never done it as an adult but when I play online it is almost always (99%) with another male. My wife is aware of how I play and when I am away from home I write stories that usually involve us in a or 4some with another couple and several times I had myself and the other male involved with each other.

I began to do this when married to my first wife who I had no desire to have sex with after several years of her letting herself go, spending all I made, etc etc. I sought out some sexual release online and found that the most available was always a man. After I got over the stigma I really began to enjoy it. But to this day I have not been with a man as an adult and am quite happy leaving it to fantasy and chat only. Maybe somebody will argue and say I'm in denial, but I don't think so. I travel with my work, a lot, and could easily seek this out if I really wanted to. I think I would make a good cocksucker and would enjoy taking it up the tail pipe, but to go out and do it... that's not as arousing. It's primarily the thought that arouses me. Post orgasm all that desire is gone.

That's my thoughts on it.

roleinthehay
I agree hat we are all born bi curious. Some of us act on our curiosty and others for one reason or another don`t. I am so glad I chose to act. I believe it has enriched my life and I personally have found there are pleasures in both male and females that can`t be replaced by the other

davidalma
I've had sex with a man since I was an adult.its been a few years. since I'm married I can't be to open. I've brought up a threesome with her a few times shes very against it just talking about it was enough to cause a divorce. but after all these years I can't just leave. pitched but never caught

nwcpl
Interesting dialog. As I considered the question, the first thing that came to mind is the body of research that indicates that a large number of males have their first sexual experience with another male. As we gain confidence and interact with members of the opposite sex we are imprinted to reproduce (ergo seek a female to do this with LOL) and given that women are available we males focus on the opposite sex. Given the societal pressures around bi/homosexuallity these pressures keep us, for the most part from acting on any "alternative sexual interests".

As we get older, and finally hit 'middle age' we've likely had a number of M/F sexual encounters and perhaps even begun experimenting with all sorts of things in the sexual universe. Children, mostly grown and out of the house, along with the security of a relationship that of built with trust allows us to share our sexual experiences, including the same sex ones and to feel safe in our sexuality and acceptance of our partners in life that we can then try out some of the alternative sexual fantasies we've been having.

Even those who have become single again or remained so from the begininng now have comfort and the security of where we are in life sexually and otherwise.

Having at this point in our lives rendered our post puberty fantasies and sexual play surfiet with having tried them all out, it is perhaps not too unusual that we see experimenting and ultimately enjoying a same sex, sexual experience as a chance to take a bite out of the 'forbidden fruit'.

We are emotionally secure and feel comfortable in trying the exotic!

frankh
I just had my first bi experience at 51, I don't know why I waited so
Long but it was great. I sucked on a real cock until I had to leave. I will finish the job the next time. Sissy wannabe

bicdguy68
In middle age, testosterone levels fall in men, which is also why so many of us CDs come out around that age.

In both cases, I believe it takes until then because we are socially conditioned as boys that bisex and crossdressing are weird and still, though to a lesser extent, homosex. Maturity can bring a rejection of many things that were brainwashed into us as children.

goodfolks52
One answer to this question is when a masculine man in his 20's whom is very successful with women finally settles down and gets married to the woman of his dreams, he has perhaps 30 years to discover who he really is. He has the memories of his youth, the experience he gains through marriage, and the maturity he garners with age. Then one day he looks at his deepest sexual feelings and finds he has an interest in experimenting with those old Bisexual feelings he left behind in college. Thus his curiosity begins to emerge, and if he is honest with himself he comes to the realization that there is more to his sexuality than he thought. If he is an adventurous soul, he may seek out a like-minded male and have sex. If he is a lucky man and he and his wife are honest with each other than he may discover that his wife is Bi too. If that happens the possibilities are endless and they end up on BP. And that is what happened in our case.

Going for the Bi life,
Joe and Sarah

Joe

SouthernBiCouple
I've been bi since I was 17...sometimes you just get older.

chillywilly
I am 66 but i sucked dicks when I was in Jr high school. I still do but my skills have improved and expanded I do it because I really enjoy it

scott0977
I am one of those curious men. Always had the desire but never the nerve to act on it. I'm hoping to meet someone to just see what its like. Websites like this is the first step. Tons of great information.

Redheadman
Because I like sucking cock and getting facials...!!! And I love to please!

Mbator48
Interesting topic, and valid comments. My interest in holding another man's penis in my hand came late in life, and quite frankly, by surprise. My first experience occurred when my then wife was out visiting friends. A friend stopped by to have a few beers and to watch a game. During halftime I went into the kitchen to prepare a snack and when I returned the dude was watching porn, and his pants were down to his ankles. After 20 or so mins I thought what the heck.... And joined in. I found it very erotic watching him cum. So much that I took some of his cum and used it as lubrication. Damn!!!!
After that day, we would jack off together on a regular basis, and sometimes late when the wife was in bed, I would stroke him in the den. From there, it evolved to meeting others at my office, after hours.
I have found that 'over thinking' my desire, is not the way to go. It's just what it is.

UNQnSWEET
Lack of available women.

Bi4u2bin
partly because of lower tostesterone as men become older, Erectile disfunction, but still haveing the need and cravings, though i had a few encounters as a teen, i went 30 years acting strait, untill ED made me rethink about how much i love cock

lancing
I have not read this thread in detail, so somebody may have said this already, but here is my opinion. Now, this is me, understand that we all travel different roads in life, but we all seem to essentially come to some shared points in "older age", that would be late 60s for me. I never had a thought about even the possibility of getting naked alone with another guy let alone getting intimate. My turning point came a few years after my dear wife had some serious medical issues which left her with absolutely no sex drive at all, at least that is what she tells me. Its a bitch to, because at 63 she is as, if not more, attractive than ever.
Now, would I like to find a women to play with of course, but affairs get messy quickly (experience from marriage number one) and there are other reason. Also, and this is my main point, most women my age, like my wife have no interest at all in cock. And what women below say, 45 wants anything to do with a 68 year old man when there is so much young, firm and so attractive meat available. So I think that is why most men my age turn to looking for some sexual relief from guys our age and in our same situation. Just sayin.