chefboyardee I know labels are just that, but often we are asked (signing up for this site for instance) to label ourselves, and there's something comforting about knowing where you belong. So...I am a married 72 y.o. AMAB. I have always been crazy about women's underwear, and over the years I have occasionally secretly indulged a bit. I have also always wanted, but never happened to end up with, a partner who would wear sexy underwear for me. Until about 4 years ago I was, as far as anyone knew, a conventional, straight, sexually frustrated, cis-gendered man. Then I started buying and wearing women's panties. I soon told my wife about it, because I couldn't hide them forever, and to my surprise and relief she was OK with it. I got some bras, camisoles, nightgowns, hosiery and tights, and even some women's dresses and pants. Now I wear panties all the time and bras most of the time, but underneath conventional male clothing if I'm out or anyone is visiting. As evidenced by my being here, I see myself as bi-curious. I would love to have sex with men, and my wife knows it, but she has not said yet that it is OK and I don't have to nerve (yet) to cheat. So if I have to label myself, what am I? I'm not really a cross-dresser because I have no intention of going all the way with it: wig, make-up, breast forms etc. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not what I want.) I don't like to think I am just an underwear fetishist. I think that's what any "normal" person would call me, and I think "fetish" has such undeserved negative connotations. I wouldn't say I'm a sissy because I don't want to go whole hog in that direction. (Again, not that there's anything wrong with that, if that's who you are.) I'm hardly a trans woman, or a femboy (Mmmmm!, that's what I would want to be if I were young and slim and cute, but with nice little boobs, not completely flat chested; so maybe a permanently pre-op kind of boyish trans girl?) Where's my color on the LBGTQ+ flag? I guess i'm just an old slightly swishy femme bi-curious semi-sissy guy who wears panties, not that there's anything wrong with that. There seem to be a hell of a lot of us on this site! Do we need our own label? Thanks for reading my self-therapy. I would love to hear what my ????. Meanwhile, enjoy.