Bxtreme3x
Any one have any tips on how to introduce the idea of sharing your wife with others to her ?
I’ve mentioned threesomes and swinging and she’s just not into it. She used to be against anal too but she’s come around on that and loves it now so I think I could bring her around to group sex too just not sure how 🤔
Any ideas are appreciated guys and gals.

iLoveCouples
Sit her down and lovingly point out that she once was against anal, but allowed herself to experience it and that is the only way that she was able to better understand it and realize that she actually enjoys it. "Well Honey, trying being shred with other men is the only way for you to know if you are open to it. I love you dearly and would greatly appreciate your openness and willingness to give this a try." Then hold her, look into her eyes, smile, and kiss her on he mouth!

Wishing you the best!

Overthehillbi
I am in the same predicament, right now I have no sex either with wife, or a guy or another woman. None, zilch, nada. I can’t tell you how horny I am. People don’t answer on this web site. I do feel for you because my wife if we were having sex only wants plain vanilla. She doesn’t want me with another bi guy she doesn’t want to watch, partake in, he’ll I told her she should fuck the other guy, do something to get out of this rut. Good luck to ya

mommysissy
Mine came home early to find me on my hands and knees with my pussy full of pool boy cock. Surprise, "are you enjoying yourself". Now she brings men home for me to fluff and get them ready for her to fuck. What a terrible punishment, HA HA

Olderandwiser
My wife and I discussed her desire to fuck my brother so I gave her the go ahead. She then liked the idea of fucking other guys in front of me and I really liked watching and jerking off. Me and a friend would fuck her as well.
Once they get past being nervous it’s a great time!

parry4oral
start by asking her to expose in public, tell her about guys who enjoyed lookign at her assets. ( she will get bood up that she is hot)
show her 3sum and swapping porn daily,
ask her that just 1 guy will be in the room and he will just watch us doing and he will clean up by his mouth if you want. (this should open her shyness)
as her to hold a big dick in hand once and make him cum by handjob ( in a open parking or lonely area)
give her confidence that its totally confidential and we will go to different places to meet the new guys. we will have separate phone number for this. satisfy her safety curiosity. tell her about disease free men only.
try this for 2-3 months and she will start responding.

Maybeoneday
Ok guys this is how my husband approached me. He came to me right at 10 years ago and said he was bi and boy did that throw me for a loop at the time we had been married 22 years yes I was butt hurt and wouldn’t talk about it for a long time then one day I looked at him and said we need to talk. We sat down and I told him how I was feeling I was scared I was going to lose my husband. I told him the reason I was scared was that he was going to find someone better than me he explained to me that this was only for having a good time not for trying to replace me. After about 3 hours of talking about it I gave him my ok to play only with men this rocked on until last year at this time of year. He kept getting ghosted all the time guys wanting to hook up them they wouldn’t show. I looked at him one day and said well I guess if your going to get any action I better make a profile and help you out well I got him his first hookup with a male but he wouldn’t go unless I went with him so being the good wife that I am I went but told him I’m not playing. He got his blowed and he blowed the other guy and we left. On the way home we talked about his experience and told me that he would really like to a threesome with me and another guy I said no but hell no I wasn’t interested. He looked at me and said baby you know how it turns me on to see other men look at you I said I know but I don’t want to do anything. Well we ran upon a profile on here and I liked the looks of the guys so I commented on it that proceeded to the guy getting in touch with me and he proceeded to tell me how sexy looking I was and then we talked for a long time on here and more men commented on how sexy I was. In short you need to let your wife know how you feel when other men look at her. Tell her how it turns you on to have other men looking at her sexy body and tell her what it will do for you to see another man please her. I have only been with 4 different guys since being on this site and all of them never fail to tell me how sexy I am. If she knows there are other men out there that find her sexy then she might let loose like I did. It’s worth a shot

Neptunes
Try useing toys and get her all hot and tell her it is someone else and you are eating her at the same time you are useing the toy on her. Also tell her that if she does do someone else you will do whatever she tells you to do ( but be ready to do whatever she ask of you ! )

Sqjuicy
You could take her to a hotel after a romantic dinner and leave the door unlocked and have a really hot looking dude come in and just take his clothes off. t eating her pussy women love that kissing on her titties.

BiDocAndVixie
When Vixie and I first got together, i told her I'm bi. She said it wasn't a problem for her, thst she has a daughter that is bi. But she never dreamed that in three months she would be engaged to me and sharing her man and her body with other men. What we did was just talk about my bisexuality. I answered her questions honestly. And explained that for me, there is a difference between recreational sex and making love. I didn't push it, but brought it up and i could see that she was beginning to be curious abd somewhat aroused. I told her how my previous booty call "girlfriend " wanted to sit back, smoke,a cigarette, and masturbate while I got it on with a guy. We broke up before we set it up. Well. Vixie floored me. She said that if i wanted to have recreational sex with a guy, she wouldn't want to watch. .. she'd want to participate. So we began seriously talking about it and gamed various scenarios, good and bad, to see how we'd react. And set some simpke ground rules. No married or straight men. And no coupkes or women because she isn't at all bi and didn't really want to see me with another woman. And we,also agreed that if either of us wanted to quit the lifestyle, that we would
But now that we've been together 5 years, and she has physical issues that have really reduced her sex drive, she has changed her mind. She was always fine with me meeting men without her. But she now encourages me to play with couples or even women. As long as they know that it's recreational sex. So far it's still just men. Any couples or women out there that would like to meet me?

BiDocAndVixie
Talk with her about it. Vixie had never done anything like this before she and i got together. And she tried it because she knows that I'm hers, and I really enjoy cocksucking. It doesn't turn her on to see me 69 with a guy, but she found that she does enjoy the attentions of two nen at once. She particularly likes havibg one man on each breast. Making sure she has fun too is just as much fun for me . The first time I guided another man into her it did ferl strange. But she has told me that in a threesome, her goal is to give the guy the fuck of his life and when he cums inside her, she gets the aftirmation that she is a skilled sexy lover. The last threesome we did, I was sucking the huy while she was kissing him and sucking his nipples. Note: because of a rape when she was a young woman, she will never go down on any man but me. But the guys get all the sucking tgey want from me. Anyway, i had him so close to cumming but he just couldn't get over the edge. She tapped me on the shoulder and whisoered "I got this" Then she pulled him on top of her and he rode her home. I circled his cock with my thumb and forefinger and cupped his balls and felt him start to spasm and pour his seed into her. As he lay, still inside her, she grinned at me over his shoulder and gave me a wink and a high five. And wheb he slipped out, i sucked his deflating cock and coukd taste both theur love juices on him. That's what I call great recreational sex.

LIKETOSUCK2
My wife loved to suck cock. I had a friend I knew that would be into a . Every time we had sex I would mention how much I would love to watch her suck another guys cock. Then one night she said who would you call. After we got with him wasn't long until we were going to swinger clubs and orgies. One of the guys we met at a swingers club called and said he had told 4 guys he worked with how much she loved giving head and fucking. She worked on us from Saturday afternoon to late Sunday.

Cureus_male
She's not into it is pretty much the answer you HAVE to go with - anything else is very questionable behavior. Take the no, but ask her where her limits are for a relationship with you if you are going to persue such playtime. Also good to ask for updates - not to pressure her to change, but as a check in - what is the current status on previously discussed boundaries. My wife and I used to swing, she isn't at all interested in any play in or out of our relationship. She see's my need to explore with men, and has asked a few limits on that (not at home, use a condom, let her know before), and has asked I not play with other women (which limits the few bi men with women that want to participate - at least after some years she is OK with the other woman watching).

Please respect her No, and keep the discussions open.

6969909909
I have been married for a long time and when we were young she without telling fuck a couple of her work friends who I knew and I could never understand at her company parties guy would flock around her when she got a little tipsy and one of the guys wife came over to me and we were chatting and I asked why her man was over flirting with my wife and she said well I hear from the other guys wives that two of them had fucked my wife and I asked if she was ok with that and she said what could she do about it after the fact... So after the party I confronted her and she admitted to it and she said she wanted more and I asked when would she want to do it and she said now So I called the two that fuck her and they brought 3 others with them so all night long the fucked my wife silly... fast forward she does not want any thing to do with sex and I wrote her a 4 page letter and told her all the things that I want her and I to do and she said no way to all I want to do... So what do I do besides cum on the BP???

Cwtogo
My wife.
Was totally against swapping, took her to a party and then tell her it was a swamp party. And everybody that p***** at her because she wouldn't f*** So they told us to f*** each other and we did with an audience. And as soon as I came and she came and I don't pull out of her. Another guy jump right in. She tried to push him off but he kept writing I'm f****** She seemed to enjoy it. She was p***** at me and went to the bathroom to clean up. I went to shut off another guy. Took her a long time to come back and found out she took 3 more loads when we got home. She was hotter and Hale wanted to f*** again.
Now she's hooked.

ionsawmill
The number one thing to remember is that when you introduce a new idea to a spouse, you've probably thought about it a lot, but they haven't. Let the idea sit for a while before bringing it up again. Let her marinate a while.

WiganDave
Hi Bxtreme, I've been in the place where you are now. x

I agree with ionsawmill - suggest an idea & let it grow (but tactfully mention the idea from time to time to help it grow).

Sorry, but I've just reviewed my story & it's a long one, hope you don't mind :-

In the mid 1980's (when we were both in our mid 40's) my wife was the same as yours. I had Cuckhold fantasies, but she was straight - until I started saying things to her like "Gary keeps looking at you - have you annoyed him?" when we were in the pub after work. Gary was one of the 4 Hunks in her team - you could say that all 4 were 'under her' !
"Really? - no I haven't". She was flushed as she said this. I encouraged her to have more pub drinks after work on Fridays. "Pay for the drinks for your team - it's team building" - "Really - ok then"
"Leave the car at home this Friday. I'll drive you to the railway station. After work, I'll meet you in the pub to join you & the Team, then I'll drive us both home. I made a point of arriving at the pub later than the others. Each time, Helen was tipsy when I arrived. I suggested things to Gary (and Dave, Darren & Bill - the other 3 in her team) like "thanks, lads for looking after her. She has a boring life at home with me - it's only her work & the office banter that excites her" I saw the look on their faces when I uttered the word "excites". It didn't take long for Helen to ask me to leave it a little later before I picked her up on a Friday.

The following Friday I purposely arrived even later than she suggested - but I didn't enter straight away. I went to a side door & was about to enter when I stood on a crate & looked through the window. Dave & Bill were leaning on the bar, looking inwards. Helen was sat with her legs apart & Gary & Darren were both fingering her ! She looked to be in paradise. What should I do ? I was turned on, but I didn't want to ruin the atmosphere. I went into the other bar & bought a small drink (I was driving) then gradually moved towards them. Dave & Bill saw me & looked shocked "It's ok, boys - she needs some excitement in her life. Don't tell her, but I want to watch the 4 of you fuck her". I gave them £20 & said "buy her a few more drinks, then come and into the other bar & tell me when she's ready ". 1/2hr later I was summoned. "Hi Helen - having fun with your team? You lot work very hard, so it's good to let off steam occasionally. I've just promised the lads a lift home - you don't mind do you?" She beamed at this suggestion. Downing their drinks I shouted "All Aboard. Only room for 3 in the back" at which point Gary got in one side as Darren pushed Helen in & sat beside her. Bill & Dave had to squeeze into the front passenger seat - looking a little disgruntled. After a couple of hundred yards Helen slurred "Derek, darling, where are you going? this isn't the way home, this is the Company car park" "I know darling, but I need a pee" so got out to pee. When I got back in both Gary & Darren had their fingers in Helen's cunt & her hands were on their erect cocks. I smiled at her & she smiled back - the barriers had now been broken. As it was a warm summer evening, I encouraged the 4 to fuck her on the bonnet of our car (no stains on the seats !) They did so & she enjoyed it. I kissed her deeply throughout her fucking. "I think they're ready again, Baby" I whispered to her. She looked shocked "they're only 25yrs old - they can go all night !" They fucked her again on the car bonnet - Missionary & Doggie (I had a hard-on watching). I drove all 4 home & then we returned home. We had only just got inside the front door when Helen dragged me to her & French kissed me. "Thank you darling for tonight - it was wonderful" - did she suspect that I had arranged it all? No matter, we went upstairs to bed. "Fuck me. Fuck me hard" she demanded as she lay on the bed. I lifted her dress. No underwear (knickers & bra lost in the company car park, no doubt). Always, before we had penetrative sex, we would give each other oral. I thought "she's been fucked 8 times tonight, I'm going to have to give her a lot of oral to get her interested so I went down on her (momentarily forgetting that she'd received 8 loads of Cum !). I licked her labia & sucked her clit & I loved the smooth salty taste to her (I never thought that this change in her juices was the spunk inside her). Despite being fucked 8 times, she responded to me & I then fucked her frenetically - it didn't take me long to Cum - I'm not sure that she did
The following morning Helen & I had a long chat about this. The outcome was positive for both of us & we had numerous sexual encounters afterwards.

I do hope that my experience can help you - please let me know how you get on - genuinely (I'll give you my personal email address if you like).
Wigan Dave.

Wildbillman
I would love this.

WiganDave
I'm concerned that the 1st part of my reply to you, Bxtreme, was drowned by the subsequent success of my approach.
So. I'll reiterate:-
Keep telling your wife that she is gorgeous & it's obvious that other men agree - "did you see that lad" (ie a man younger than her) "looking at you?" when you are in the supermarket together.
"It's been a hard week, so let's stop at ..... on the way home for a drink after we've shopped at the supermarket. I'll drive, so that you can relax - put a nice dress on" (The premise of a drink together in public, should encourage her to dress nicely for the supermarket beforehand - your opportunity to tell her of the number of men looking appreciatively at her. Encourage her to bend over to reach for something from a lower shelf, or into the bottom of a freezer for something - then compliment her on her figure & tell her how many men were looking at her bottom as she bent over. It could take time, but persevere & don't push it - if she responds it will be obvious - she'll start dressing sexily when you go shopping. If she doesn't respond, you'll have to persevere - perhaps you see a woman in the supermarket that you both know? Tell your wife how attractive the normally drab housewife looks in 'that outfit' and "You'd knock spots off her, if you were in a similar outfit"
It worked for me & my wife. I'm sure that it will work for you 2 - it just might take longer. In my case the results (ie Cuckhold) were well worth the effort that I put in - I'm sure that you'll have similar results - Good Luck.

BiDocAndVixie
If that is your wife's pictures in ypur profile, surely she's gotten compliments. Show them to her. The real compliments. Ones complimenting her beauty and sexiness. Not the cruder ones. Those are likely to turn her off. But every woman appreciates a sincere compliment. Show her those and the profiles if they have face pics. Every guy has a cock, after all. See if any of the men are attractive to her. And then TALK about it and see how you would both feel in a threeway situation and what might happen. If she doesn't totally shut down the conversation, then you have a chance. Don't push it. Expkain it's just recreational sex. For the fun, the excitement, and the delicious, pun intended, naughtiness. Neither of you is looking to change. You are mates. A spare is just that. An extra pair of hands, and an extra mouth and cock. You can bet she'll think about it. Just be open. Promise her if she tries it and doesn't like it, that you won't resent it. And you better not! She's yours. And tfat will have to be enough. At least she tried. Mine has been inactive now for several years, but encourages me to meet men on ny own. So I still get to suck and 69. And we love each other just as much or more than ever. Good luck!

Cwtogo
I started.
My wife we'd watch Porn and fuck I gotta wear sexy short outfits. When we go out for dinner and she was good lookin. G we got caught f****** in the backyard once he said that turned her on.
So I took her up to a parking spot where a lot of guys were hanging out and we're f****** in the car. She love being watched that got her started game on.⁹

nhnjbiguy
Before my wife and I got married, one day after we just had sex, she said that nothing could feel better than that. I told her that if another man was with us, it would feel twice as good, and I painted a picture in her mind of what we could do to her. She was interested. For some time after that, when we had sex, I would talk to her about what the other man would be doing right then. She would get so turned on she would cum!
So one night we tried it with a friend of mine. She loved it. During our sexually active years, before her hysterectomy which changed everything, we enjoyed many ,threesomes. I don’t know what turned me on more, watching another man fuck her or the planning that went into it. Who the man was. What she would wear. The situation or possible role play that it involved.

Ah yes, the good old days….